Ghosted: A Personal Reflection on Silence in the Hiring Process
Until recently, I had only read about “ghosting” in the job search process—candidates submitting resumes, going through rounds of interviews, and then… nothing. No email. No call. No closure.
I always felt for those who shared their experiences, but I hadn’t experienced it myself. That changed this month.
About four weeks ago, I applied for a role that seemed like a great fit. I had multiple conversations with the hiring manager and was eventually invited onsite to meet with three of his colleagues. The interview itself felt informal and warm. Some schedule changes during the day, yes—but the people were kind and engaged. I left feeling cautiously optimistic.
A few days later, I got a follow-up call, just as promised. But something was different. The hiring manager’s tone had shifted—noticeably somber and subdued. He said the company was going to continue interviewing other candidates and expected to make a decision in a few weeks. He did mention he appreciated my deep experience in a space the company was moving into—but it was hard to tell if I was still under consideration or if this was a gentle goodbye.
He closed by referring me to the administrator I had been coordinating with, suggesting I reach out with any further questions. I did. I followed up—politely and professionally. No response. Not a word since.
And just like that, I understood what ghosting feels like.
Ghosting in Hiring: Why It Hurts Everyone
Ghosting is more than a missed email. It’s a missed opportunity to build trust and show respect—on both sides. For candidates, especially those who’ve invested time and emotional energy, being left in the dark sends a message that their efforts and experiences don’t matter.
And for companies, the damage goes deeper than one hurt candidate. It erodes brand reputation. It discourages referrals. It leaves a trail of frustration that travels fast in professional networks.
I know hiring teams are busy. Priorities shift. Sometimes decisions are delayed or derailed. But basic follow-up—especially after multiple interviews—isn’t just a courtesy. It’s leadership.
To Hiring Managers:
If someone made it to final rounds, they deserve to know where they stand—even if the news isn’t what they were hoping for.
A simple update can prevent a lot of disappointment and maintain goodwill.
Your silence speaks louder than you think.
To Job Seekers (and myself):
If you’ve been ghosted, it’s not a reflection of your value. It’s a reflection of their process.
The right employer will communicate openly and respectfully.
Every experience—even the painful ones—adds to your story and resilience.
I debated writing this. But I think it’s worth saying: being ghosted hurts. But speaking up—respectfully and professionally—helps others know they’re not alone.
Have you been ghosted during the job hunt? How did you handle it?
Let’s start a conversation.
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